经网络诊断,又得病了......


你知道电话恐惧症(Phone Phobia)吗?这指的是对拨打或接听电话产生恐惧和回避行为,也被看做是社交恐惧症或社交焦虑的一类。

Phone phobia, or telephone phobia, is reluctance or fear of making or taking phone calls, literally, "fear of telephones". It is considered to be a type of social phobia or social anxiety.


很多年轻人会将手机调成静音(mute),避免听到电话铃声(ringtone)。人们更倾向于使用文字交流如微信、短信或邮件,即使知道电话沟通更高效。

有些人就算接了电话但也不说话,直到对方“自报家门”后再挂掉电话。有人表示接通电话后不知道该说什么,会急于结束通话。

有人担心陌生来电是诈骗(scams)或骚扰(nuisance call),甚至会忽略所有陌生号码(unknown number)。更有甚者听到电话铃声会感到烦躁、恐慌,甚至出现呼吸急促等生理反应。

These symptoms may include nervous stomach, sweaty palms, rapid heartbeat, shortness of breath, nausea, dry mouth and trembling. The sufferer may experience feelings of panic, terror and dread.



那么,电话恐惧症,到底是在恐惧什么?

对于老一辈来说,电话是日常沟通的重要方式,但对年轻人而言,电话并非首选。

如今,基于文本的沟通(如短信、微信、邮件)更为普遍,且许多事务(如挂号、购物、点外卖)都能在网上完成,无需电话联系。


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与打电话相比,发信息更能让年轻人掌控沟通节奏,他们可以思考后编辑文字,甚至搭配图片或表情包(emoji)。

而电话的实时对话、随机应变以及可能出现的沉默或尴尬则会带来压力。

有人说“如果把微信比作是录播(pre-recorded)的话,电话就是直播(live),要立即给出反馈”,这会让人失去思考的空间。

在开放式办公室,打电话还会让人感觉被同事评判。


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如今,电话多用于重要事务,导致年轻人接到电话时会本能地认为是紧急情况。

尤其是陌生来电,更容易引发焦虑。

此外,电话会打断正在进行的事情,被视为一种“突袭”。

同时,如果自己是要打电话的一方,也可能会产生害怕打扰到对方,使对方厌恶自己的恐惧。

You might have phone phobia if you: Avoid making calls or having others call you. Delay making or answering phone calls. Obsess about what was said after calls. Stress about embarrassing yourself. Worry about bothering the other person. Worry about what you will say.




可见,人们害怕的并非电话本身,而是电话铃声响起时那种不可预测性带来的心理压力。


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那么,想要克服电话恐惧症,我们可以怎么做?

1. 了解自己害怕接电话的原因,如担心说错话、被拒绝等,有助于找到解决问题的关键点。

Identify where your fears stem from and how you can change those thinking patterns to be more realistic and effective.

2. 在打电话前制定详细计划,如列出要讨论的话题、准备好开场白等,以增强自信心。

Know generally what you are going to say. If there are important points that you need to bring up, make sure to write those down and keep them handy for easy referencing.

3. 在通话前进行深呼吸、冥想等放松技巧,减轻紧张情绪。

Remember to breathe and pace yourself as you perform a call. Calm down before calls by taking a few deep, 4-count breaths and pace yourself with no more than 10 calls in a row.

4. 从较熟悉的人开始,逐渐增加打电话的次数和难度。

If you find strangers more difficult to talk to, start calling people you are more familiar with. Then further extend both the length of conversations and the range of people with whom conversations are held.

5. 如果电话恐惧症严重影响生活,可以咨询心理医生,必要时可进行心理治疗或药物治疗。

If necessary, you can consult a therapist. Phobias of this sort can usually be treated by different types of therapies, including: cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), psychotherapy, behavior therapy and exposure therapy.

“电话恐惧症”并非病态,如果不喜欢接打电话并未对你的生活造成实质性影响,那么无需过于在意。

不过,即便害怕电话沟通,也别忘了保持基本的沟通能力哦~

你有电话恐惧症吗?欢迎在评论区分享~

编辑:弓玥琪

来源:外研社 维基百科 Smith.ai Verywell Mind

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